The wonderings and wanderings of Dakin and Company

Month: November 2015
[Some deep thoughts about marriage] It doesn’t happen when you’d expect it to. Not in the burst of celebration and the pomp of ceremony. Not in the perfectly planned I-dos, nor in the afterglow of two glorious honeymoons. It doesn’t happen when you want it to, pretending not to wish it here. Calmly and then less calmly trying to summon that invisible cable to connect us, for all the world to see. It doesn’t happen in the raw rub of disappointment or the itch of unmet expectations, even though that’s when I hope it would kick in the strongest. And so I resign myself to accepting that it is either a gradual awakening—the kind where forty years later, sitting on a stoep together, laughing, I finally see it, feel it and realise that it’s been there for some time. Or it is never there—the lie underneath the fairy tale of...